A woman recently shared a string of “ridiculous” text messages she received from a date in a now-viral video, and commenters are in hysterics.
The video, found here, was posted to TikTok last week by Nik (@_nikk1), who wrote: “This is why dating is miserable.” So far, the post has racked up more than 1.4 million views and over 145,000 likes.
Before showing viewers the text messages, Nik explained in the video that she and her date—a man named “Josh”—met online and really “hit it off.”
Nik further explained that the two spent six hours together on the first date, which began with dinner at a restaurant of Josh’s choosing.
“After this date he texted me saying that he wanted to see me before he left for this work trip,” Nik said. But the two couldn’t make that timeline work. So they decided to go out the day after Josh returned from his trip.
Nik texted Josh a couple of days before their date to confirm that they were still on, but Josh never responded. The day of the date came and went without a word, so Nik accepted she’d “never hear from [Josh] again.”
On Christmas day, however, Josh texted Nik with a “half-a**ed” apology and asked her how her holiday was going. Rather than chat about Christmas, Nik confronted Josh for ignoring her.
But this is where things went awry.
“Honestly, I wasn’t hot with urgency because I noted you excused yourself to go to the bathroom when the check came for dinner and also drinks and I hate it when girls do that,” read Josh’s text response. “It’s exceptionally rude and cheap; and really disrespectful and I felt like you really didn’t care despite what I felt from you.”
Nik explained that she didn’t know the check would come to the table while she was in the bathroom, but Josh wouldn’t drop the argument. He “lied” and accused her of choosing the restaurant and ordering what she “liked.”
He also said that he doesn’t want to use his “trust fund” to “cover other girls’ drinks.”
Nik was shocked by his reaction.
When it comes to paying for the first date, Harvard Business Review recommends throwing “long-standing (and outdated) cultural assumptions” out the window.
“[B]e open about money right from the get-go,” said the publication.
“If you would like to take care of the check, it’s best [to] gauge how the other person feels about it first. For instance, you might say, ‘How should we handle the bill? I know these conversations are a little awkward, but I’d love to cover it if you don’t mind.’ Likewise, if you want to split it, you can suggest, ‘Do you mind if we split this down the middle?'”
Men’s Health also reminded that while it’s a “nice gesture” to offer to cover the bill, it’s OK to split the bill if one party insists.
“If they object, you can explain that you’re totally willing to go dutch on your next date, but since they agreed to spend their evening with you, you’d like to get this one,” said the magazine. “If they’re …….